I know that the Speer manuals have reduced loads. I don't believe they have them listed for every cartridge but, if you contact them, they may give you what you are looking for. The Lyman manual has some reduced lead target loads that would be tolerable/comfortable for a small framed person to practice with.

Use a light bullet and a powder charge toward the bottom listed. A listed but light charge and a light bullet will greatly reduce recoil.

In the Hornady manual they list a 120 gr bullet with 8 different powders that start the bullet out somewhere around 2500 fps. I used to use a 115 gr Speer in a 7mm Rem Mag loaded hot and the recoil was mild.

I don't think I'ed fool around with reduced loads unless you want to use cast bullets. Then use gas checks and just pick a load out of the Lyman manual for cast bullets.

If your daughter is going to hunt deer with a 7mm-08, Hornady lists the 120 gr bullet as a game bullet. Just might be the way to go.

thanks for the info.
I've been loading my pet loads for my couple of rifles for so long, I haven't looked at a reloading manual in years. guess I'll go pick one up.