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mlchris2 wrote:
I got something that will make you all chuckle. It's not a buddy that ditches out on us. He is more like one of those buddies that we would rather him stay home for several reasons. He always invites himself, never chips in for gas, food, beer, etc. He shows up and eats all our food, uses all our gas and drinks a good % of the beer. He always is too cheap to buy ammo or arrows, so we usually end up giving him some field points or a box of shells. He bitches the entire time we go out too. Worst of all he is one of those guys that has to one up everybody. The guy is a TOOL!!!

It's gotten to the point that we try to avoid him entirely around hunting season. He makes each trip a disaster. Hunting with the guys is a way for me to relax, talk about old stories, bond with my fellow man... but this guy ruins it for everyone. It's so bad that we have been flipping coins to see who gets to hunt with him on the weekends. LOL

I had the same problem a long time ago. What we did was sell him his shells, arrows, beer, or what ever when he showed up at camp empty handed. It only took one season for him to take a hint.

As far as the other half. My ex used to tell me to get out there and kill something. She loved the meat and even would help along with the butchering of the deer or elk. She just didn't like the idea of shooting the animal or the packing of it up and over a hill to get it out not to mention what she would do while I was cleaning it out.

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YOUR BUDDY MAY JUST BE GETTING BY MAYBE HE DONT HAVE THE MONEY LIKE YOU THINK OR HE OWNS HIS OWN COMPANY AND IS DETERMINED TO BE SUCCFL WITH IT . I AM ON THE OTHER SIDE FELLAS MY BUDDY SAID THE SAME THING ABOUT ME 3 WEEKS AGO I RUN A COMPANY AND HAVE OTHER PEOPLE I HUNT WITH, ITS HARD TO MAKE EVERYONE HAPPY BUT ITS ME IM TRYING TO BE HAPPY AND AFTER 80-90 PHONE CALLS AND DEALING WITH ALL THE CUSTOMERS I JUST WANT TO GO HOME AND TURN THE PHONE OFF AND WATCH A LITTLE TUBE OR GO GET MY HORSE AND RIDE AND ONLY LISTEN TO THE SOUNDS OF FOUR FEET MOVING, BUT I DO LIKE TO HUNT WITH THAT GUY I JUST HAVE OTHER THINGS I LIKE TO DO BECAUSE OF MY FAMILY LIFE. I HAVE A 8 YEAR OLD WHO LOVES TO GO HUNTING WITH ME ITS HARD TO TAKE HIM WITH HUNTING BUDDYS AND HAVE HIM THERE TO. SO GIVE HIM A BREAK AND MAYBE JUST TRY AND PLAN ONE HUNT A YEAR WITH HIM IN ADVANCE. WITH MY BOY IM TRYING TO PASS SOMETHING DOWN TO HIM IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN AND ITS HARD WITH YOUR BUDDIES WHO CUSS AND DRINK AND TELL STORIES. I HOPE THIS HELPS A LITTLE GOOD LUCK HUNTING THIS YEAR.
P.S IF YOUR WIFE GETS MAD AT YOU FOR HUNTING GO GET A GIRL HUNTING BUDDY SO SHE HAS SOMETHING TO BE MAD ABOUT! Evil! Evil!

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Sounds like I'm like lots of you guys--married to a non-hunting lady and I said the same type of stuff to her before we were married and she knew she married the guns as well as the guru. She even grew up in a hunting family, but for many years it was dicey come huntin time. That really changed when my kids started to learn and enjoy shooting. My oldest's first year for Elk/Deer was last year. No luck, but we had a GREAT time and that was definitely communicated to mom. My son, who could shoot a grizzly's eye out and would probably try, will be 12 in '10 and be hittin'' the woods with his sister and I, too. The other thing is we eliminated the "me-time" attitude from our relationship. The reality is we both need it-thats a no-brainer, but demanding MY huntin time communicated the wrong message. Once I learned to commicate that she was more important to me than my dearest Remington no matter what (which actually may NOT be totally accurate) then my huntin time (year 'round) got handed to me. Call me lucky--if it hadn't worked that way, I would've downsized my bed and changed my nicknamed .280 from Betsey to Babe.

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My wife still tries to, but I get my elk hunt every year!

Drop me a line and I am on my way if your buddy backs out! Too late this year, but I am just down the road in NM! Thumbs up

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Hi guys new to the site, we have a friend that does the show up with no food, beer and always has something to do when its time to get things ready or cut firewood or whatever. Started doing the same as Critter said we just quit feeling bad and didn't give him anything. Yes he would still eat when dinner was ready but we would purposely skip him in handing out beers and had to keep the cooler or things near us. He got the hint as well. I am engaged and my old lady wants me to shoot more animals cause she likes the mounts! I told her im going to need a second job her list is quite long.

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I didn't start hunting until I was 40! My wife was never around hunters or hunting but let me run with it. I got lucky. So long as it looks like it came from the market when it gets to the house, she's cool with it. She loves the meat and loves me more when I'm happy. Nuf said.

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mlchris2 wrote:
I got something that will make you all chuckle. It's not a buddy that ditches out on us. He is more like one of those buddies that we would rather him stay home for several reasons. He always invites himself, never chips in for gas, food, beer, etc. He shows up and eats all our food, uses all our gas and drinks a good % of the beer. He always is too cheap to buy ammo or arrows, so we usually end up giving him some field points or a box of shells. He bitches the entire time we go out too. Worst of all he is one of those guys that has to one up everybody. The guy is a TOOL!!!

It's gotten to the point that we try to avoid him entirely around hunting season. He makes each trip a disaster. Hunting with the guys is a way for me to relax, talk about old stories, bond with my fellow man... but this guy ruins it for everyone. It's so bad that we have been flipping coins to see who gets to hunt with him on the weekends. LOL

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Hi guys new to the site, we have a friend that does the show up with no food, beer and always has something to do when its time to get things ready or cut firewood or whatever. Started doing the same as Critter said we just quit feeling bad and didn't give him anything. Yes he would still eat when dinner was ready but we would purposely skip him in handing out beers and had to keep the cooler or things near us. He got the hint as well. I am engaged and my old lady wants me to shoot more animals cause she likes the mounts! I told her im going to need a second job her list is quite long.

Ok, first things first. For the guys in here that are bad mouthing their so called friends (or what ever you might refer to them as). You sound like a bunch of gossiping women. Why dont you grow up and be men. If you feel like someone is using you, confront them about the issue. If they're pissing you off confront them. Maybe the guy has never been told that he's a user instead of a giver. The guys that are willing to bash other men for not being men instead showing them their issues and teaching them how to be men; Theres a word for those type of guys,and it's called ((( BOYS ))). Grow the heck up. If you've confronted the guys and they don't try to fix themselves or at least ask for help, then theres nothingyou can do. They have to want to be men themselves.

As for the guys BEING men in here, Bravo your a real encouragement to those guys who need the help. Whether they know it or not!!!

I just want everyone to know something about me. I grew up without my father, I've struggled my entire life learning how to be a man. NO ONE IS PERFECT. We all have our issues. So for those guys in here who didnt have a father figure to teach them how to be a man it's time to step up to the plate and man up.

Excellence, Integrity, Service Before Self

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I have a friend who has gotten on the wrong side of most of my hunting buddies. goes out and shoots a 2pt at first light and sits around camp and eats everybodys food while we are out looking for some serious horns. When one of my friends stumbled back into camp well after dark in a snow storm, cold, wet and hungry and discovered his food was gone, and my friend said, Oh yea I ate that, help yourself to anything in my pack. Well my friends didn't want to eat what he had brought. So they said, If he comes, we don't for future hunts.

For me this fellow let me go hunting with him, when I had nobody else to go with. So I feel I owe him. but he does drive me crazy. I own the horses and pack camp up the mountain. This guy brings crap I leave home because I don't want to haul the weight up, refuses to carry or back pack any of his stuff. So my horses get overloaded or I have to make a second trip in to get all the gear,

So I guess I get back at him the old fashion way. I put him on the roughest riding horse I own. I mean somebody had to ride that horse. The rest of us rode foxtrotters and he rode a arab and he just doesn't know how to post or control the horse.So he bounced the entire ride. I don't think he realized the difference in horses, he just figured he was out of shape for riding. So after 7 miles he swore he would rather hike than go hunting with us any more. So we didn't have to confront him. He made the decision himself.

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rather_be_huntin wrote:
Great post.

Look I am a devoted family man I have a wife and 3 kids. They come first...but....I told my wife before we got married where my passions lay. I told her that I'm a hunter (I am also an ATV guy) and I need my time to do what I love. In my opinion if you lose who you are in a marriage then you're nothing but a bank account and sperm donor to a woman. I figure I can be both of those things divorced.

With that being said my wife not only understands but is getting interested in doing them with me from time to time. With that being said I make sure I don't skip out on the important stuff. I stay home from opening weekend if there is a dance recital or the wife has something she really wants to do. Then I hit the hill after that.

We are very happy and our marriage works great but I have seen too many men get "beat down" and I refuse to lose myself in a marriage. Yes my family comes first.....but I refuse to let anybody keep me from the things I love.

Yeah, it's true. You just gotta be able to communicate. if you don't communicate what your needs are, it's not a marriage. . . this post is turning a little too dr phil.

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Laughing out loud!

I love it! Dr. Phil isn't someone I'm familiar with - but this post trail is like reading Maxim or something like it to get the "other" point of view. - Come on! You know you all read Cosmo at the grocery store!

I happen to be a "chick" - who likes to hunt and fish, and sometimes enjoy going by myself, and with my spouse and family. Sometimes we just like to go out and kill something too. It may very well save the lives of my children and husband! lol

To avoid the heartache and misery, I didn't date anyone who hated hunting or fishing. I didn't marry someone who hated what I love. Being true to myself first - and not compromising who I am - makes me someone happy - and probably a lot easier to get along with.

A woman's bit of advice: Tell them that it makes you happy, and when you are happy, you are probably a lot easier to get along with. Most of us who love you - want you to be happy. Really!

BTW: I love Painted Horse's solution! Cracked me up! Also Critter's finance your own hunt plan. Thumbs up

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