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Location: Longmont, CO
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Bowtech, I feel ya there.... 3 years ago I finally got my my hunting and fishing buddy of 22 years to leave Denver to move out to the western slope. I hooked him up with an excellent job and he loves it out here. -BUT- his wife has turned into deamon spawn and since he's been out here we have gone fishing twice and STILL have not gone gone hunting together. His wife has almost completely removed him from his own self. There are a lot of great wives out there, but I must say, the new modern day woman sure has taken over all that is good about being a man. They want to turn us into pansy little spineless afraid men. It is the great feminization and wussification of the american man. In thier eyes it is a shameful thing to continue being a man once youre married.......... Oh well.

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Location: Aurora, CO
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I'm blessed to have a wife that understands my need to hunt. We have 2-month-old twins boys and she told me that i better not skip hunting because of the boys.

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Location: Denver
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Have a 1 week old boy... and my wife hasnt said anything about me not hunting... we will see, hehehe... she knows I love, and as long as I help out, she knows everyone needs a little time for themselves.

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Location: Hawley, Minnesota
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I think this is the first time i have seen the work wussification used in a sentence.

Location: Utah
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Great post.

Look I am a devoted family man I have a wife and 3 kids. They come first...but....I told my wife before we got married where my passions lay. I told her that I'm a hunter (I am also an ATV guy) and I need my time to do what I love. In my opinion if you lose who you are in a marriage then you're nothing but a bank account and sperm donor to a woman. I figure I can be both of those things divorced.

With that being said my wife not only understands but is getting interested in doing them with me from time to time. With that being said I make sure I don't skip out on the important stuff. I stay home from opening weekend if there is a dance recital or the wife has something she really wants to do. Then I hit the hill after that.

We are very happy and our marriage works great but I have seen too many men get "beat down" and I refuse to lose myself in a marriage. Yes my family comes first.....but I refuse to let anybody keep me from the things I love.

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I got something that will make you all chuckle. It's not a buddy that ditches out on us. He is more like one of those buddies that we would rather him stay home for several reasons. He always invites himself, never chips in for gas, food, beer, etc. He shows up and eats all our food, uses all our gas and drinks a good % of the beer. He always is too cheap to buy ammo or arrows, so we usually end up giving him some field points or a box of shells. He bitches the entire time we go out too. Worst of all he is one of those guys that has to one up everybody. The guy is a TOOL!!!

It's gotten to the point that we try to avoid him entirely around hunting season. He makes each trip a disaster. Hunting with the guys is a way for me to relax, talk about old stories, bond with my fellow man... but this guy ruins it for everyone. It's so bad that we have been flipping coins to see who gets to hunt with him on the weekends. LOL

Back to your topic... I havent had the mis-fortune of having a woman tell me I cant go outdoors with my friends. In facts it's opposite. She loves to hunt and fish. I got her into hunter's safety this year and bought her a gun and a bow. We've been out every weekend in July getting her used to shooting. She is anticipating her Elk and Deer hunt this year. We will be doing archery next year... she didnt make it thru hunters ed in time. my buds tell me I better keep this one on a short leash, cause there isnt many like her out there. I must agree

Location: Utah
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mlchris2 wrote:
I got something that will make you all chuckle. It's not a buddy that ditches out on us. He is more like one of those buddies that we would rather him stay home for several reasons. He always invites himself, never chips in for gas, food, beer, etc. He shows up and eats all our food, uses all our gas and drinks a good % of the beer. He always is too cheap to buy ammo or arrows, so we usually end up giving him some field points or a box of shells. He bitches the entire time we go out too. Worst of all he is one of those guys that has to one up everybody. The guy is a TOOL!!!

It's gotten to the point that we try to avoid him entirely around hunting season. He makes each trip a disaster. Hunting with the guys is a way for me to relax, talk about old stories, bond with my fellow man... but this guy ruins it for everyone. It's so bad that we have been flipping coins to see who gets to hunt with him on the weekends. LOL

So why don't you avoid him all year long? I would.

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We try like hell sometimes, trust me. He is a good guy... just one of those guys that doesnt have a lick of common-sense or respect.

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Location: Edmond, OK
Joined: 08/20/2009
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Been there, too. I had a best pal who I hunted with for the last eight years or so. He got married to a gal that used to work for me - I had to fire her - and she turned into a devil woman, too. He didn't hunt one day last year, and I've hardly talked to the guy since the wedding. He didn't heed the warnings and we know he's wishing he had. Can't give up who you are for anyone...

I thank God for my wife...she's the best when it comes to letting me do my job as a husband, daddy and hunter.

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Location: cheyenne wyoming
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MY GIRL FRIEND HAS ALREADY STARTED she told mee more than once that "" you know there is more to life than just hunting and fishing'''' i said '''''yeah like WHAT''''' i told you up front if iam not hunting iam fishing if iam not doing either iam getting ready to do one or the other

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Two areas I let my wife know were of the utmost importance to me and would be going nowhere as long as I am physically able to do them, which I hope is well into my seventies/eighties are hunting/outdoors and physical fitness weightlifting. As long as I devote equal time to her/family and home responsibilities and encourage her to participate in activities she enjoys I see no problem.

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